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Attunements-Distance & Grandmaster

“My mother in-law interferes in my life”

RN : Your husband was going to come into Reiki , then what happened? He decided against it?

RN : You didn’t set such a good example? Sitting next to you is Ritu who set such a good example in front of her husband that when he came to the Reiki Seminar, he said the only reason why he came to Reiki is—his wife’s anger has disappeared. (laughter) Now he has become a completely changed man. What do you think?

Ch : He was always lovable, but now I can love him more. He is totally different.

RN : So sometimes we need that touch of unconditional love in our life to be able to unfold and be the real person that we are. Sometimes it needs a wife, sometimes it needs a nice Reiki master.

Ch : After coming to you I have changed a lot. In fact I have become possessive about my work. Because when I was going through everything this was something that gave me lot of strength. It helped me feel good. I became very possessive about it and if anybody says something about my work, getting late or getting very involved I get very touchy about it.

The only reason why you get touchy is because you will find something what they are saying which matches with something with whats inside you. Because if you are enjoying yourself completely and having a nice time you couldn’t give a damn, quite rightly, what anybody says about your work but if you are touchy, if you are protective or if you are possessive about it , that means you yourself are not so sure.

Ch : Why that happens is because of the comparative and the partial things that happens at home between a man going to work and a woman going to work.

NN : If the husband is saying something, then that’s a different equation…

NN : Fine, so you tell them. (laughs) Why, bilqul theek hai. Bolo ke ji I enjoy this. This is my life. My husband doesn’t have a problem with it.

RN : You know the other thing is that when you are completely fragmented and you are going through a lot of pain, when you know you are having some relationship issues coming up there is a lot of pain that you have to deal with and a woman’s defense-mechanism is that she hides behind a lot of work—- physical, mental work so that she can hide away the emotional pain.

NN : And if nothing else, start cleaning out the clothes cupboards at midnight—- (laughter) – It happens like this doesn’t it—-how many of you....?

NN : They are all doing it. (laughter) If not at midnight then they will start at 3 o’-clock in the morning.

NN : Wohi to—-removing and putting back, reorganizing, that’s what I’m saying. You have to do something.

RN : That’s the only time I get, so when should I do it? It wasn’t out of any other need. How many here would volunteer to come and sort out my cupboard? (laughter)

RN : It is—for me! So work is a very, very strong strength that a woman has and specially for you because you have been insecure. I don’t think you should view it too critically what people are saying. Just look at it as guidance which Reiki is sending you that the main issue that you have to heal is your relationship with your in-laws.

NN : And what you should say ki, mujhe to bahut mazaa aa raha hai, I am enjoying myself immensely and am in bliss—so when you see this happening, you should be pleased as well!

RN : “I am really happy.” So what you should do is to place your hands on your kidneys and you should channel the DRL. Put the whole house, put all the people and hear them saying what you expect them to say happily.

RN : See them smiling and thinking-saying, ‘Oh! she is working so hard and is going to work and it is so nice.’ You understand. So you have to heal it. Take everything that comes in your life now as guidance—it needs healing and is healable. Don’t look at it as one big mountain I have to climb or I have to feel guilty about.

Ch : I have gone through the same stages once, everyone at home would grumble but I just refused to give way and everybody has accepted it now.

Ch : It’s just that I feel so strongly about it and when you feel so strongly about it , you can convince the world.

NN : See there are certain things you must do for yourself as an individual. Like we get so many people on a daily basis...

RN : I had a 74 year old lady come to see me one day… Her husband had turned her out of the house after she was 74. She said, “can you tell me what should I do with my life.” I said, “why don’t you start living for yourself?”

She said, “can you teach me how? Because I don’t know how to live for myself.”

It was like… even if she wanted to have a cup of tea, she would only have it if somebody else in the house wanted to have a cup of tea. It was only incidental that if the tea would be made and she would have it. If there was somebody else going for a movie she would go. She would never go because she wanted to go.

NN : She would wear what everybody else liked her to wear and not what she liked. The food would be cooked according to everybody else’s desire, nothing to do with her desire.

RN : Whatever was left over she would have. She would never eat first… putting it on her plate...

RN : This is a normal thing in a lot of Indian families, that’s how women live. So you are fighting against that consciousness. You know that consciousness is also vibrating all over India and that was expected out of lot of women and that is the consciousness your mother in-law is coming from. So, when she sees you like a rebel—going out, getting dressed, charging out of the house and coming back late then you have to heal that part of her.

Ch : You know, I had heard this from people that things would—and I would become more aggressive after having done Reiki but it is the other way round, people get very calm.

Ch : She is a Reiki I. She has done Reiki I from somewhere and I get very amazed when she says that she doesn’t knows what Reiki is—she has done it!

NN : Then you have a very simple answer—“mama darling, have you heard how you are speaking. Apni shakal dekhi hai—have you seen your face?”

RN : That means, “mama there is so much anger and so much aggression in you that you can recognise it in me because I don’t recognise anything of that sort within.”

NN : “I don’t see the aggression. I am only loving you but if you are shouting right now; are you seeing you are shouting?”

Ch : …And another problem of her’s is, whenever my husband and I argue, she has to speak and get into it and she has to take sides… I just fail to understand why she has to interfere. He can be wrong and I can be wrong. We can sort it out.

NN : Aisa karo ki jab aap ladte ho, ek to unke samne na lado, nahin to unko dabbe mein dal do. (laughs) (Whenever you argue don’t do it in front of her, otherwise put her in a box!)[1] Put all the participants in a box. Put the boxes around their ears that they hear only love and light, that only love and light goes in and out—what is so difficult about that? Usmein kya hai? You are a Reiki Channel. You can easily convert them to your viewpoint. What is the difficulty?

Ch : I can endorse that again because for many many years I went through exactly the same things and…

NN : …And she is still smiling! Unki zabaan par purple box dal do, put purple boxes on their tongues if you don’t want to hear what they say—There is no shortage of purple boxes! You people don’t try it. You people love a bit of spice in your life. Thoda sa theekha hona chahiye, thoda sa bitter hona chahiye. There should be some pungent chilly-spice and bitter taste….!

Ch : No sir, I will speak for her. We, at least at Reiki 1, don’t realise the enormous power we have available. It sinks in only after a while that you can do this also, and that also and so on.

RN : You know she had all of Panchsheel Colony’s electricity out because her husband had forgotten...

Ch : My husband told the servant to put the electric stove on and he put a pan of water on it to heat and then forgot all about it. We told the servant to take the rest of the evening off as we were going for a movie and then when we reached the movie hall, my husband tells me there that the heater is on at home with the water boiling on it. I told him, ‘how can you do something like this?’

Ch : I just sent healing that my house should be safe in my absence. I didn’t say, ‘electricity—don’t come’. It was Reiki’s decision.

RN : So Reiki’s decision was this electricity has to be switched off, so switch off!

NN : And just five minutes before they reached home electricity came back. The pan still had plenty of water in it.

RN : So… if something like that can happen, you think your in-laws won’t give you a nice smile and a big hug and say to you, “you look tired darling, would you like a nice cup of tea?”

NN : You see? Be bold, ask for chai, ask for the hot water bottle. Why not? Test it.

NN : You have heard of the first energy principle – ‘energy follows thought, like attracts like’. If you have not been saying anything to them, but saying all kinds of things in your mind to them, then also it will go there, it will reach them.

But the thing is, you should put them in the DRL[2] and then do it. You should do these things in DRL. You can even shoot somebody in it . It will not have the negative kind of reaction that comes when you are bubbling away with it inside, internally. So this is a very good kind of feedback.

To respect elders doesn’t mean that you have to keep quiet and swallow everything. You are inviting trouble when you are doing that. You are sending out those vibrations. If you mentally do these activities in the DRL—whatever you had been thinking, the situation would be very different.

You see, you must understand and appreciate that inside each of us there is a very small (or a very big) part that doesn’t want things to get better. There is some part of us where we do not want these negative things actually to disappear. We do not want it to cleanse out. We like that emotion ki isko to main gardan se hi marod donga. Agli dafa aaye to main chaped maarongi—that I shall wring his neck and next time he comes I’ll slap his face! At least in your mind you would do this and feel outraged—‘how dare they?’ I can’t let go of that. It is natural. There is some part of me which enjoys this. Lets face it. That’s why we are non-vegetarians. We like the taste of blood. If it is not available then we chew on ourselves, our own blood… and getting a taste this also happens. So that’s what we are doing… In this case we are asking for some kind of trouble.

So heal that part of yourself which wants to have this kind of confrontation and then feel helpless… Why are you feeling helpless?

NN : Yes darling, you are feeling helpless. “Why did he have to say this?” you ask…What was your reaction to what he said?

NN : Silly, why are you helpless? Spoiling your own mood—Apna hi khoon jala lo, burn up your blood. Damage your liver with emotional indigestion—give birth to a gallstone, develop a migraine. What is the use? They will say, “he never said anything at all—see, that reaction is what she deserves and she is getting it!”. The next time they will come back at you with two tons of pressure. Right now it’s only one ton and then it will become two tons, so this is part of that “poor me” self-pity thing coming up.

Heal your Hara and liver at once, and the Solar Plexus. Then there is no “poor me”.

NN : Yes that is because ‘as you do so shall you receive’ is the same principle as- ‘like attracts like’. As you are throwing to somebody he is throwing back to you. As you feel for someone so will they feel or reciprocate. This is a fact. But, the point is, if you do it in the DRL, it changes.

You may hate the person in front of you, you may dislike him very intensely. Put them in the DRL and tell them—‘I dislike you. I don’t like what you said. It hurts me. I get very upset. I get very this, I get very that and I feel like slapping your face.’

Slap their face in the DRL. Kindly don’t do it in person. (laughter) I have to keep reminding you because some of you are all ready to physically do it... (laughter)

RN : Because you will go home and say, “40 Reiki 2’s gave me healing, now I am going to fix them!”

NN : So you do what you like in the DRL by mental intention only. They will get the message in a different way and you will heal something inside yourself. Maine to ache achon ko uda diya hai, I have finished off the best of them in the DRL—Demolished them all! (laughter)— what is there? In the DRL you can do anything.

RN : Basically, the DRL is… when you are doing that shooting and all, what is getting healed? The other person is—and you are healing yourself. That part of yourself that wants to shoot or be violent, isn’t it?

NN : Well , that’s how it is working , even if you don’t know. That’s exactly how. To aap bhi usmein jo marzi karein. So you also do what you like in it. The first result will be that whatever anger or upset you are feeling, that instantly vanishes. On the other hand when you are doing it without the DRL, whatever emotion you generate and continue to generate by meditating on something, that emotion grows. Our anger, upset and resentment will grow. But if you do it in the DRL, I don’t think you can last out more than a minute feeling upset and angry and you cool down very fast.

I have yet to come across anybody who can remain angry when they are doing this. In the beginning stages— you are a Reiki 1 and you have lot of anger—perhaps it will last for no longer than a couple of minutes, but then by the end of 21 days certainly it will work very fast. It is an instant healing of yourself and then you should ask yourself, “why am I giving this person the power of attorney to play with my internal state? What am I doing?”

Somebody says something, raises one eyebrow and tilts their nose up at me and I am laid up in bed—oh, what is this? I have given the whole world the power of attorney to make me ill—they just lift one eyebrow and I fall down. Think about it.

By doing that do you think they will have better feelings towards you? Have you seen a little puppy dog who gets kicked? He come around again with his head down and gets another kick and then he will come around again. So that is the kind of behaviour people are thinking you are upto, if you do this. So then it becomes a habit, they think ‘this person likes it—It is for their benefit’. They will convince themselves that they are doing all these nasty things because you really need it. They are doing you a service.

They will say, “oh, many people are giving me Reiki healing …they keep asking me if they can give me healing, and so where you are giving me Reiki healing, I am doing you a favour by allowing you to actually heal me!”

See what a great charity they are giving you, such a big favour!—kitna bada ahsaan kar rahein hain aap pe.

You have to be aware of this deranged mentality and without getting sucked into it, heal it.

[1] The Protection shields of Reiki 1, also known as the ‘purple boxes’.

[2] DRL Reiki is a distance healing method taught by the Senseis Nirula to their Reiki-1 channels and is available to any Reiki channel from other Masters through their authorized book—The Living Handbook of Reiki.

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